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We Will Remember You

5/23/2014

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This weekend, our Nation will celebrate Memorial Day to remember and honor the fallen heroes who have laid down their lives for our freedom.

In remembering these very special "heroes,"  I am very much aware that all of them were someone's child, husband, wife, sister, brother, uncle, friend, etc., and that in remembering and honoring them this weekend, grief and love will be very much a part of remembering.




I immediately think of the moms (and dads) who had to send their son/daughter into battle never to see them again this side of Heaven. I thank God for the men and women who have sacrificed their lives in service to our Country, and I also thank God for those who love and lost them, and who live with their loss everyday - not just on Memorial Day.

One of my close friend's son was in the Desert Storm war and I remember how she suffered, while he was away.
She was worried sick most of the time, watching news around the clock, waiting for any word concerning the war, but she was also intent about holding onto the hope that her son would come home safe and sound. She was so brave, but anyone who knew her also knew the depths of her love for her youngest son, and the depths of her fear and sufferings, during those difficult months.

Thankfully, her son came home alive and well, but as we know only too well there are hundreds and thousands of moms around the world who lost their precious child.

Today, I am especially mindful and thankful for not only the men and women who have laid down their lives for freedom and liberty, but also all the moms who have lost their child (or children) are unsung heroes, too; their courage and sacrifice goes beyond anything that I can imagine, and I pray that God's love, comfort, hope and strength will cover them, as they honor and remember their fallen hero . . . their child.

With Blessings and Gratitude for these great sacrifices,
Angie "a mom like you"
amotherlikeme@gmail.com
www.amotherlikeme.info




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One Day at a Time . . . Reflecting on Mother's Day 2014

5/12/2014

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"Nothing lasts forever. Nothing stays the same."

Since the loss of my son, Kevin, my anticipations and expectations about holidays and special days have changed.

Mother's Day "past" and Mother's Day "present" are very different, as I reflect on
 memories that I cherish of the blessings of being a mother and a grandmother and how we, as a family, celebrate this day set aside to honor "MOMS."


Some of my most cherished memories of Mother's Day celebrations are of when I was a young mom with my three sons at home;  hand-made cards and notes, 3 flowers in a vase signifying my three sons, burnt pancakes prepared by my husband and boys, dancing with my boys in our family room, picnics, brunches, BBQ's with my grandmother, mother, aunts, uncles and cousins - those large family gatherings, when all of our children were young and under-foot and our precious grandmother was at the heart and center of our extended family.

Since Kevin's death, and our relocation to Colorado from California, Mother's Day has changed. Though the love that we share as a family has not changed, most of our traditions and celebrations have changed quite a bit.  As is the case concerning my journey of grief, I know that, if I am going to live a happy, peace-filled life, I must accept my "new normal" and embrace the changes, as part of God's master plan for good. -Jeremiah 29:11

Though I cherish the past, I constantly remind myself to live in the here and now, focusing on what I have rather than what I don't have. My children and grandchildren love me, and I love them, and it doesn't take a Mother's Day for our  love for another to be expressed. As a family who has suffered the loss of someone we all loved so much, we all realize that it is important to show our love for one another each and everyday - taking no one for granted.  

Kevin's death has shaped and changed me (and our family) and something very precious came from the "ashes" . . . 
a life-changing realization that we should not wait for special days to show those we love that we love them, because
today is all that we have, and it has been our experience that "nothing lasts forever, nothing stays the same."

It is my hope and prayer that other "moms like me" experienced a measure of God's love on Mother's Day, and that you are also experiencing something of the peace and contentment that comes from living one day at a time in Christ. 


With Faith, Hope and Love,
Angie "a mom like you"
amotherlikeme@mail.com
www.amotherlikeme.info


 



 




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Mother's Day . . . A Time to Celebrate Mothers

5/10/2014

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Mother's Day used to be so much fun for me as my children got excited about making me special homemade crafts and having a hard time waiting until the actual day to give it to me. 

My children knew how to make me feel special and they loved me well. 

Then one tragic day on November 2002 Mother’s day changed forever. Now, when this day approaches, there is pain and sorrow, as I miss my children so much it hurts inside. I mean really physically hurts! 


My family is not complete and there is sadness in that reality. Yes, I have four other children, as people are quick to point out, but that does not make the sorrow any easier.  I now have a love-hate relationship with any holiday really, but especially Mother’s Day. 

The thing that gets me through these times is that as my heart is hurting it reminds me of God’s promises; 
That the Lord will never leave me or forsake me. He wants to hold me and comfort me, as I hurt. That everything happens for the good of God. 


That the Lord  will never leave me or forsake me. He wants to hold me and comfort me as I hurt. 

That one day, I will be able to see the big picture and how exactly He turned ashes into beauty. 

That one day, He will wipe away all of my tears. As I stand in his presence, He will I believe physically wipe my tears away. 

That in Heaven there are no more tears. Once those tears are wiped away there is no more sorrow, no more pain.

That in Heaven we never have to say goodbye again. I will live in the presence of Christ with my children and never have to feel that pain again.

That in Heave there is no more evil, and I will never have to hurt for another mother. as she walks through the pain of losing a child. 

Finally, because I have a relationship with Christ, I can stand on all these promises, because I am a child of the King.
My home is not here, but in Heaven. This world is temporary. Heaven is for eternity.   

So, as you walk through Mother’s day missing your sweet child, whether you had them for many years, just a few years, or never got to hold them this side of Heaven, I hope that, you, too, will let your pain point you to the ultimate healer and comforter.


Holding Onto God's Promises,
Susan Gray "a mom like you"
slgray@suddenlink.net

" The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you"

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"A Special Mother's Day Gift"

5/3/2014

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"I'll see you in my dreams, hold you in my dreams."  

I recently dreamed of my son Kevin. Though infrequent, the dreams I have had of Kevin since he headed off to Heaven have always been comforting and faith-building; containing a specific message that I believe comes from my Heavenly Father.


When I tucked my three little boys in bed at night years ago, I would often sing words from the chorus of a 1940's song 
"I'll see you in my dreams, hold you in my dreams;" I would have never imagined the significance of these words concerning my son, Kevin.

In this recent dream of Kevin, I was sitting at a table alone, and I felt very sad and alone. When I glanced over my shoulder, 
I saw Kevin sitting at a table with my Mom, and he was showing her a bright and shiny diamond cross necklace on a piece of black velvet (almost exactly like the one in the photo above).

I sensed that this was a very special moment, and I knew somehow that the necklace was Kevin's Mother's Day gift to me. 

I kept looking at the necklace and then looking at my son's face, which was reflected pure joy and delight.

At one point in the dream, Kevin got up from the table where he was sitting and he started walking toward me. I immediately stood up and walked toward him, and just before we reached one another, he stretched out his arms to me and we hugged; 
a hug that felt very real and so familiar. But, even while I was hugging him, I knew that he would be gone from me, and I didn't want to let him go. 

As I pulled my head back to look up in his face, suddenly Kevin's face was replaced by the face of my oldest grandson, Joey, and I heard Kevin say "Joey needs you now, Mom, keep pointing him to the Cross."  When I woke up, I got down on my knees and prayed for Joey, specifically that he will experience the love, joy and peace of Jesus - the love joy and peace that Kevin now enjoys eternally.

In life, when Kevin gave a gift you knew that there was a lot of love and affection attached to the gift, and that is what I felt in this dream - LOTS of love, affection and encouragement from him to never take my eyes off the Cross, and to never stop caring and praying for the people that are here with me now.  
 
"Thank You, Father God, for this very special Mother's Day gift given to me in the dream of my son. Though I will not be able to wear the cross necklace around my neck, I will wear it in my heart and hold onto the love given with the gift that I know was hand-delivered to me by Your Holy Spirit."

With Faith, Hope and Love,
Angie "a mom like you"
www.amotherlikeme.info
amotherlikeme.gmail


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Recipe for "Tear Soup"

5/1/2014

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I have a very special book/DVD in my lending library by Pat Schwiebert entitled 
"Tear Soup" that has been a source of encouragement to me, and to great numbers of
those who have suffered loss.

Pat Schweibert has given me permission to share something of what she includes in her book and DVD, and so I would like to share a simplified version of the "Tear Soup Recipe."  

Pat's "recipe" is creative and insightful. The book and DVD is available at www.amazon.com.

This is a recipe that I hope you will try!



RECIPE FOR "TEAR SOUP" (For healing after Loss)
"What is true about soup making is also true about grieving."

Ingredients Needed
-A pot full of tears
-One heart willing to be broken open
-A dash of bitters
-Many handfuls of comfort food
-A lot of patience
-Buckets of water to replace the tears
-Plenty of exercise
-A variety of helpful reading
-Enough self-care
-Season with memories
-One caring support group (or individual)
-One capable counselor

Directions
Choose the size pot that fits your loss. It's OK to increase the pot size, if you miscalculate.
Combine ingredients. 
Set the temperature for a moderat heat. 
Cooking times will vary depending on the ingredients needed. 
Strong flavors will mellow over time.
Stir often.
Cook no longer than you need to.

Other Important Suggestions
Be creative
Cry when you want to
Laugh when you can
Keep a soup-making journal so you won't forget


This recipe SERVES ONE! 




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    These blogpages are written by and for moms who have suffered the loss of a child.

    May the reflections and expressions of mothers  hearts be a source of comfort, help and encouragement and may you, like these moms, accept God's great exchange as "He gives beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, praise for the spirit of heaviness . . " Isaiah 61:3

    With Faith, Hope & Love,
    Angie Green
    by "A Mother Like Me," Editor

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