As those who are hurting and grieving, we have to be very careful how we interact with others in response to our personal pain and sorrow.
As the title of this blog says "hurting people hurt people," and I have seen and personally experienced this time and time again. Even for those with good intentions, grief causes such raw emotions and breaks down our normal coping mechanisms and we may find ourselves functioning at a baser level of ourselves.
The "refiner's fire" of sorrow and pain brings out the good and the not so good in all of us, and much of the time, it is the "not so good" that comes to the surface first.
Who wants to suffer? Who wants to interact with people who are hurting and hurting others in the process? Not me, but too many times in my life, I have had to interact with these type of people and have found that I can be that "kind of person," when I am hurting, if I am not careful.
So, what can we, as wounded, hurt and grieving people do to avoid hurting others, while we are hurting? I recommend (but haven't always done this in the past) stepping back from people who don't know how to interact with people without putting up walls, and rather than dealing with their own pain and hurts, they lash out at others in their pain and suffering. This is because of unresolved issues with one another and grief brings all the unresolved issues to the surface, almost instantly, in my experience.
I also recommend to have limited contact or interaction with people who don't know how to hurt without hurting others, and to actually back away from these unhealthy relationships for a time and maybe from now on, sometimes family and friends hurt one another most of all and taking a step back and being quiet can be the best way to handle these unhealthy relationships,
I am guilty of hurting people, because I am human. I am flesh and I am a sinner and I thank God for Jesus who covers all my sins. As we approach the Easter Season, I am reminding myself that we all hurt, that at some time in our lives we will be hurt, offended, misunderstood, persecuted and even betrayed. I am also reminding myself that sometimes those who are hurting the most hurt other people unintentionally, and we all have to be very careful with one another and we most certainly need to connect our "hurt with the healer" - JESUS!
I'm doing my best, while I am suffering the loss of my precious brother, Russ, on March 13th to not hurt others, while I am grieving, and I will try to build bridges not walls.
May this Easter Season bring all of us to the Cross, where we can be honest with ourselves about our sinful nature and with our feelings, and where we will stand with a multitude of others who are looking to Jesus to stop their bleeding as we are covered by His precious blood of forgiveness and grace.
With Faith, Hope and Love,
Angie Green "a mom like you"