Sometimes, I have what I call "pity parties."  These times are completely different from my "pajama party" days, where I spend the day lounging around in my pajamas not doing anything in particular - just relaxing and lazing around for the sake of relaxing and lazing around.

My "pity parties," however, are those times, when something just isn't right and when I'm just feeling down, discontent and restless somehow. I would like to blame these times on some type of hormonal imbalance or my circumstances, but unfortunately (or fortunately) my hormones are fine, my circumstances are no better or worse than anyone else's, and I have to take full responsibility for my attitude and my actions. 

Have you ever had one of "those" days, when you stayed in your pajamas all day? 
Well, recently, I had two days like that!  

A couple times a year, my husband, Bob, heads out on his own to So. California for some  "guytime." He golfs, spends time with our son who still lives there, his brother and sister, and he re-visits some of the familiar places where we grew up, married and raised our three sons over a 50 year span of time.

When he heads out for his "guytime," I stay home with a list of "Nothing To Do's," and I usually spend at least one day - - ALL day - - in my PJ's.


Now, some people might say "What's that all about - are you depressed?"  In the past, a day spent in my pajamas was because I was sick or having one of those "D=down" kind of days. But, since Bob and I retired, I find that getting up, getting dressed and getting ready for the day just isn't what it used to be and because I am not so inclined to be productive, but more inclined to be relaxed and reclined, I look forward to, plan and enjoy a less productive day from time to time.

This is my second "pajama day" in two days, and instead of feeling guilty, I feel FREE! Free to BE rather than to always BE DOING. Free to go about my day in the comfort of my home (I really wouldn't want my neighbors to see me like this, though!) without make-up, hair every which way except where it is supposed to be, and best of all in my pajamas!!!

Now, this brings to my mind how much I have changed, since the loss of our son, Kevin in 2002. I have always enjoyed some lazing around, but I am much less goal and outcome-oriented and what I used to refer to as my "purpose driven days!"
I am now much more like our son, Kevin, in that I know how to relax, and I make time to, as he would say, "kick back, take it easy, hang-out and relax." In my previous life (as I refer to the time before Kevin died = BKD) a day in pajamas would have been a rare day for sure. Talk about a "new normal" - I hardly recognize myself sometimes, and I'm OK with the changes, which I believe are all for GOOD!

How about YOU?  Have you, do you ever stay in your PJ's all day - not because you're sick, or depressed or feeling lazy, but simply because you enjoy being in your pajamas? Do you ever just go au-naturale without make-up, a hairdo and beingin intentional about spending a day differently with no particular plan or schedule?

If you don't schedule regular "PJD" = Pajama Days - I highly recommend you consider one now and then, especially for those of you who NEED some cozy, comfortable rest days. How does the idea of a PJD sound to you? Can you give yourself permission to stay in your favorite pair of pajamas and reap the reward of a true Sabbath (rest) in the arms of the Lord?

I would so enjoy hearing stories about some of your PJD's and it would be fun to post these on our Mothers Like Me Facebook page sometime too - inspiration, encouragement and creative ways to spend a day - so I hope to hear from YOU! 

Happy Pajama Days precious "moms like me!"
Hugs, Angie

“Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. “ Proverbs 16:14

“Sympathy is two hearts tugging on one load.” -Anonymous

I recently viewed a video posted by www.walktoremember.org entitled "Support Grieving Parents" and there were several points that touched my heart . . . words of wisdom and insight concerning how we might best help those who grieve.  

One of the points that impressed me was what bereaved parents want to hear from others in response to their loss; and the consistent theme shared by several bereaved parents who were interviewed on the video was that a simple "I'm sorry" is enough. 

Merriman-Webster's Dictionary provides the definition of  "sorry" as . . . "feeling sorrow or regret." 

The words "I'm sorry" that someone might say to someone who has suffered loss may not seem enough somehow, but throughout my personal journey of grief in response to the loss of my son, Kevin, in 2002 and from connecting with hundreds of moms who have suffered the loss of a child, I have found that a simple "I'm  Sorry" is enough; these simple words convey genuine comfort and concern for the brokenhearted - would you agree?

I remember a movie back in the 70's (I think) called  "Love Story," where the wife says to the husband, "Love means you never have to say you're sorry."  My husband, Bob, and I looked at each other and we almost laughed out loud. After the movie ended, we talked about how silly that statement was in light of the reality that to truly show our love for someone, we must be willing to admit our mistakes, say 
"I'm sorry" and ask for forgiveness.

To all the precious moms we have met and will meet in the future, we want to say "We're sorry for your loss and we deeply care about your hurting heart and we hope that we can somehow be 
of comfort, help and encouragement to you." 

As we are praying and planning for our upcoming 2013-2014 Season of Comfort, we look forward to connecting and companioning with you. Watch for information about our new age-specific loss groups and other special events. Go to www.motherslikeme@facebook.com and/or visit our  website Support Groups and Calendar of Events pages at www.motherslikeme.info.


Our hearts are turned toward you, 
Angie Green and our "Mighty Like A Rose" Ministry Team